Back in February, my son had a medical emergency and wound up in the hospital. He couldn't remember anything and assumed that he'd had a car accident. It turned out that he had actually collapsed on the sidewalk, and was not near his car. He had a similar event a few days later at a store, after which he finally was diagnosed with a serious but curable condition, was put on medication, recovered quickly and has been fine ever since. However, he made the mistake of telling his ex-wife that he'd had a car accident before he found out the truth, with the result that she went into a rage and told him he could never again be alone with their son, and made him sign a document giving up virtually all his rights as a father. Although by then he had a doctor's note saying that he was fit to return to work, to drive and to care for his son, she refused to accept it, and made him sign the document anyway before she would let their son get into our car. Since then he has been honoring her demands even though there never was any need for them, but it is getting harder and harder to find people willing to drive all the way out to Simsbury to pick up the boy, and to have people stay in our house when we are away as she also demands. Then a day or two ago she learned that my son's car was damaged, but instead of calling him and asking what happened, she immediately accused him of having had nine accidents in three years and will never, never, ever, be allowed to drive Connor anywhere. The truth is he hasn't had any accidents since being involved in a small fender-bender at a traffic light last winter, has had only two minor accidents in his whole driving career, and the recent damage to his car was caused not by an accident but by a deer which ran into it one night. Just to be clear, insurance companies differentiate between an accident and an animal strike and do not charge the usual deductible for the animal strike, since it is not an accident. She is completely unhinged with no evidence to support anything. We have no idea where she is getting this supposed data, since there were no car accidents at any time, but she still insists on punishing my son relentlessly in texted abusive words and actions. This situation, of course, is partly his own fault, since he refused to correct his initial statement even though I emailed her that there were no car accidents, therefore no police reports, no suspension of license, no insurance claims, no nothing, and we were not going to support this intrusion into our lives. I guess he was afraid to tell her the truth because he feared more retribution from her, but he still should have refused to sign that document, as he was advised by his attorney and by me not to sign anything. If she doesn't end this delusion on her own, I'm afraid he will have to take her back to court again to get it nullified. She reacts to everything with anger and derision.
I learned recently that she might be aware of this blog, as she was furious over what she called slander that I am supposed to have written. I have said nothing about her in Facebook for at least two years, so it must be this blog, although I have written very little about her here either until now. In any case, I hope she reads this one. Maybe she will learn something and try to be a more reasonable person. Miracles can happen.
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